Do You Know How To Get Who You Want

Who would you like to date? Do you know what characteristics you are looking for in a soul mate? And do you know what you need to do to get the relationship you want?.One of my single clients lives in a big city where she works hard, fights loneliness, doesn't know how to find someone to date, and dreams of finding her ideal partner. However, when I asked her, "What are the qualities you want in the person you are looking for?" she did not know.

It's important to know.In order to get what and who you want, you need to get clear about what you are looking for. How can you get closer to finding your dream date? Here is an I.

D. E. A.:.I stands for Identify.Identify what you want.

Get specific. Who do you want to be with? What is your idea of a great date or mate? Think of specifics and make a list. Don't get stuck on just the details of how someone looks. Focus on a broader range of qualities you want, such as, chemistry, sincerity, fidelity, intelligence, successful, etc. if you want to have a relationship that will endure.D is for Details.

Make a detailed list of the actions you can take once you know what you are looking for. Get out of the house, try internet dating, and tell friends that you would like to meet someone. Be action oriented. Put this list of what you are going to do in order of priority.

What is the action you will take today, this week, and this month to move you closer to your goal of meeting someone? Put the activities on your calendar.E stands for Explore your resources.What resources are available to you? How many friends will you call to set up activities you can do together so you can get out and meet people? How many places will you go? What resources are there for you to explore, such as the social calendar at your place of worship, local events, listings in the newspaper, reunions, classes you can take, interests you can pursue, etc.? Give yourself a certain amount to do. Keep a journal of what you have done. Be able to show yourself what has occurred at the end of the month.

A is for Actual.Actual and realistic goals are necessary for success. It is important to not have unrealistic expectations. You will become discouraged. Once you are clear about where you want to go, commit to only what you can do in a reasonable time frame. Have a time line attached to your plans.

Get specific about what you want; take action ?don't just sit around thinking about it; have a list of things to do that can be measured (how many times you went out in a week, or a month, for instance); and be realistic about how much time it takes.Know what you are looking for and then take the necessary steps to make it happen. Think about the above I. D. E. A.

when you are wondering how to find a mate. Love is out there for you.

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